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UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST
FELLOWSHIP OF AMES

1015 N. Hyland Ave., Ames, IA 50014
515-292-5960
Email address: uufa@uufames.org; http://uufames.org
Newsletter vol. 12, #7 July, 2005

Services and Childcare at 10 AM. Nursery care is available for children through age 3.
July 3 When I Grow Up I Wanna Be ...
  Toby Ewing

Did you dream of being a firefighter / nurse / lawyer / artist when you grew up? Is that who you are now? If not, why not? Did growing up require letting go of dreams? Join us in a consideration of what we wanted to be, who we became, and how we become.

 

July 10 Where Has My Village Gone?
  Darius Jackson (First Unitarian Church, Des Moines)

 

July 17 Justice or Mercy: UU Faith in Action
  Sally Boeckholt (First Unitarian Church, Des Moines)

Our principles call us to seek justice. We'll explore the differences between justice and mercy and how we, as individuals and as a community, can answer this call.

 

July 24 A Few Good Words
  Xenda Lindel (First Unitarian Church, Des Moines)

 

 

July 31 My Lot In Life
  Doug Hoffman (First Unitarian Church, Des Moines)

"My Lot In Life" is about my attempt at a mid-life career change to car sales, having never sold anything for a living before. It is a reflection on change, crisis, self-image and perspective.

UUFA Newsletter
Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Ames
1015 N. Hyland, Ames, IA 50014
Published monthly Sept.-May;
Irregularly in summer
MINISTER'S LETTER

Thanks to the 96 people who took the time to fill out the Sunday Morning Program survey – and a special thanks to Carol Kazmierski for putting the survey together and compiling all of the results. These results amounted to two pages of statistics and 34 pages of comments. Of course the statistics are a helpful barometer of how we’re doing and areas of growth. The comments give us some anecdotal insights as to the meaning of the numbers.

Just over 10 percent (11.4) of those who responded are not satisfied with Sunday mornings. Only one person was “very dissatisfied.” Not a huge number, but still a reason to be attentive to the numbers and comments. In the measures of the various programmatic areas, more than half the respondents thought the time allocations were “just right” for all but two areas. One was discussion periods, where 48 thought it was just right, 27 want more, and 17 less. The other area was live music. This is the only area that no one said they wanted less and 40 people wanted more. Our music programming is all volunteer. This means that Peggy Earnshaw and the music committee need all of our help to attend to the live music on Sunday mornings. An email to Peggy or the office about ideas or talents you have would be greatly appreciated.

While the statistics are fairly easy to glean meaning from – though I’m certain we’ll differ on interpretations, the comments are more wide ranging. Insight from the comments tends to go to extremes. There are those who would attend more if I spoke more, others would attend more if we had a different minister all together. Some wish the children weren’t part of the Sunday service at all, others wish they were there every Sunday. Some want more spiritual topics, others more scientific subjects. One person said the stories are great, another said that they are “dumb.” And so on. Most of the comments were helpful, some brutal. From them we have insight into possible topics and speakers.

Our hope is to have these results, the statistics and comments, available on the website soon. Printed copies are currently available at the Fellowship office. The Sunday program committee will spend the summer looking through the results and discuss how we might continue to improve the experience we offer on Sunday mornings.

This survey is also part of an evaluative process we will begin next year. The Committee on Ministry will be looking at how we do ministry at the Fellowship and my role in that ministry. Starting in the fall we’ll have opportunities for feedback and input from all of you. The ministries we do, just like the Sunday programs we create, are community efforts. I hope everyone will participate in this creative process.

As we close this fiscal and program year for the Fellowship, I want to thank our officers and board for their leadership during a year of transitions. Thanks to Lynne Van Valin as she ends her term as secretary and to Dallas Thies and Fred Vallier as their board terms end.

I will be on vacation for the month of July. If there are caring emergencies please call Lynne Van Valin, Trish Strah and the office. For Fellowship business please contact our president, Brenda Witherspoon.

 

See you in August,

Brian

PRESIDENT'S LETTER

UU growth has stagnated. In June at a General Assembly session in Fort Worth, I learned that U.S. adult membership grew last year by just 0.3 percent – or about 500 members of about 150,000 total. Combined with an RE drop of 1.7 percent, UUism as a whole lost ground for the second straight year.

Back in Ames, UU growth is a slow trickle. Some come; almost as many leave (with the shining and critical contradiction offered by the youth program).

Meanwhile, I read in the Fort Worth Star-Telegram that Disciples of Christ leaders meeting just down the road say they are seven years ahead of schedule toward their goal of starting 1,000 new congregations by 2020.

At the UUFA June board meeting, driven by a question about adjectives that evolved into a discussion of substance, we agreed to revisit our mission statement in the fall. I have a growing sense, though, that we will only grow individually and collectively if we focus on revisiting not just our written statement but our understanding of and commitment to our mission itself.

In a workshop with congregational leaders, UUA President Bill Sinkford spoke about whether we are simply collections of individuals creating collections of congregations or whether there is something common to hang our hats on. The Rev. Robert Hardies of All Souls in Washington, D.C., one of the fastest-growing congregations, cited the clarity of its theological vision as a key to that group’s growth and attractiveness.

And while he didn’t say it, I think we must remember that welcoming all souls and having a theology that embraces all souls does not mean that all souls will or should find a spiritual home in a UU congregation. We should not confuse making people feel welcome with making them feel comfortable. UU tradition values speaking our truths, not withholding our truths for fear – however well-intentioned – of offending people.

We’ve all heard about comforting the afflicted and afflicting the comfortable. By and large, I think we need to grapple with more affliction. We are too comfortable with our level of volunteer commitment, with our level of financial giving, with valuing the UUFA for what it is not rather than for what it is or could be.

We grow when we are challenged. We can lose ownership when we aren’t.

I wrote last month about how we often use the Fellowship as a place from which to go forth and be socially active individually but not as a place to work collectively. I think we do this in spiritual growth, too, assuming that, because we each have our own paths, we must actually be making progress along those paths. It is naïve to think that we all have the tools or incentive to do serious spiritual growth work independently. Our mission statement says the UUFA “stimulates the study and practice of ethical and liberal religious thought,” but I think perhaps we should be compelled, not simply stimulated.

We’ve all been asked why we became UUs, why we came to the UUFA. But we need to ask ourselves what about it speaks to us regularly and profoundly. What about it stirs us to action? What about it forces paradigm shifts, not just reassurance that we’re thinking about the right topics?

And if we have no answers, maybe we have at least identified some key questions.

 

— Brenda

DRE LETTER

This topic, how to interact with each other in an expected ethical fashion, affects all of us. Involvement in a faith community can lead to the personal enrichment and spiritual growth we desire, but it can also encourage us to build caring and committed relationships with each other across the lifespan.

As a child and youth advocate, I am especially sensitive to this topic because I want to ensure that adults who interact with children and youth do so appropriately. We — the DRE, the RE committee (which has subsumed the childcare and safety committee), and the YAC (youth-adult committee) — consider the safety of children and youth as a priority and take measures to ensure that.

Over the years we have refined our safety policy, which has a detailed sexual and physical abuse prevention plan. Many of you who have served as RE teachers, mentors, or youth workers are hopefully familiar with the measures we take such as calling personal references and requesting criminal background checks. We also insist on always having two adults or teen caregivers present with children. This not only protects the children, but the adults from false accusations.

In the Coming of Age program we ask for parents to give special permission for mentors to meet 1-1 with mentees. We strive to be proactive with safety issues. We want adults to understand the importance of right relationships with children and youth so the latter can learn to trust.

But it’s not just adults’ behavior towards children that is important in right relationships. It’s also important for children and youth to establish a covenant with each other and with the adults who interact with them. This classroom covenant is created each September with a discussion of positive outcomes.

“What kind of feeling do you want when you meet together each Sunday? How can you express your caring and concern for each other? What words are affirming and positive? What are the consequences when our covenant is broken?”

These covenants are signed by all, posted on the wall, and referred to when necessary as a reminder for ethical interactions.

The teens going on the Boston trip recently established a similar covenant with each other and with chaperones.

Adults in faith communities usually do not have such explicit covenants for right relationships with each other, but we sometimes allude to our responsibilities to each other through songs or responsive readings.

Several of the women’s spirituality groups that I’ve been a member of establish “ground rules” such as confidentiality, positive feedback, active listening, constructive criticism, and so on. This agreement among members prevents ambiguity or questionable assumptions that can sometimes lead to a breach in relationships.

Our sexual abuse prevention policy is focused on children and youth, but it would be advantageous to extend this policy to include comments on preventing abuse (sexual, physical, emotional) between congregation members or between staff and members. (As suggested in Creating Safe Congregations a UU resource.) This policy would also provide actions to take if unethical behavior occurs and how to provide healing for all concerned.

In recent years there has been a growing expectation that Directors of Religious Education form covenants with their congregations. Again, such a covenant offers a clear and stated understanding of expectations—-how the DRE and congregation can work together in a shared ministry to children and youth. I look forward to this covenanting process with the Fellowship in the fall.

 

— Benette Sherman

RE NEWS

No RE News this month.

 

— Benette Sherman

 

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